Among the various roads we follow, we could find a road that leads to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. Then there is a road that leads to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. Moreover, there are roads to happiness or sadness, to victory and jubilation and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.
In life there are corners, detours, and crossroads along the way. I think the most challenging one of all is the crossroad. You have four roads to choose from and if there was no clarity indicating where each road goes, which one will you take? How can we guarantee we choose the right one? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are? You need to make a choice, or you stay in the front of the crossroad and remain “stuck”.
There Are No Guarantees For Any Of The Decisions We Make.
You are in a place of uncertainty because you can’t know where an unsigned road will take you until you travel along it. There are no guarantees. Life is full of choices and you need to realize that we make good and bad choices. I don’t know anyone who has ever said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would lead to happiness. Consider these simple, yet true statements:
- Loving someone ultimately and completely does not guarantee that love will be returned.
- Achieving fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness.
There are too many possible outcomes in whatever path you choose that are not in your control. The one thing you do have power to control is the decisions that you make, and how you react to different situations.
Bad Decisions We Make Are Always In Hindsight.
Would you have gone along with something if you knew it was a bad decision?
Of course not! Why would you choose to do something you knew would get you lost?
Why would you decide on something if you knew from the start it’s not the right decision to make?
It’s only after you have made your decision and thought it that you realize how sound it is. If you find the outcome is a good one for you, then you have made a good decision. If not, then you have made a bad decision. It may be the overall decision was a good one, but you chose to do one task a different way and it affected the outcome. Choices are like a “sub niche” of your overall decision. This is why it’s important to reflect and respond to your outcome in the right way.
The Important Thing To Do Is Take The Risk: Decide On What You Want And Go For It!
Because there is no guarantee and you’ll never know that you’ve made a bad decision until you make it, take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than staying stuck and unhappy. You may take a wrong turn along the way and get a little lost, but this is all part of the adventure and may even open more roads for you.
It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice of being a wayward traveller or an accidental tourist of life. Be careful not to make “haphazard” decisions. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid.
Here are a few pointers to help you make better decisions and choices:
- Get as much information as you need about your situation.
You can’t have the right information to decide if you know little about what you are faced with. Take what any news reported would do and thing of the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why.
What is the situation?
Who is involved?
When did this happen?
Where is this leading?
Why are you in this situation?
These are just some of the questions to ask so you can find out more about your situation. This is very important. The reason for indecision very often a lack of good information.
- Identify and create options.
What options do you have in your situation? Sometimes options are few, but sometimes they can be endless.
What do you do if it appears that the situation has no obvious options? Then it’s time to create your own. Put your creative mind to work. Think about all ideas from the most simplistic to the most complicated, and see what comes up. Don’t disregard anything when an idea comes to mind. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could be the very one you need to pursue. If you’re struggling with this, you could ask a friend to help you come up with ideas and identify even more options. Remember that it’s you who must make the final choice.
- Weigh up the pros and cons of every option.
It’s important to analyse each option. Look at the advantages and disadvantages that each particular option offers you. This will help you to make the right choice too.
- Trust yourself and make that decision.
Having assessed all of the options, it’s now time to trust yourself. Remember there are no guarantees and bad decisions are made in hindsight. You have given yourself the best chance to make the right choice by doing all the checks and analysis with due diligence, so choose. Make your decision based on the belief you’re choosing the best option.
You have done all you can to make the right choices and decided to go for it. Now you have to face the consequences, whether they are good or bad. You may be taken on a ride to a place of promise or maybe a land of problems, who knows. One thing for sure is you are in for a great ride. The important thing is that you’ve chosen to live your life and not remain a bystander or a passive audience to everything around you.
The decisions we make can be good or bad, right or wrong, only time will tell what they will be. Don’t regret it, whatever the outcome. Learn from any experience and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.