if at first you don't succeedIn these days of so much expectation and pressure to do so much, it’s more evident that we should all take note of the old saying “if at first you don’t succeed”. Because of the noticeable “rush” of life in general, the opportunities are all there but also the need to be patient and persistent is something we all need to be aware of.

If At First You Don’t Succeed…

Whatever you do, don’t give up! You need to have patience in order to win the day. So many people will blame the system they have bought into rather than look at themselves. It’s a human nature thing I believe and one that we all need to work on. I wonder why there is so much anger around that breeds negativity.

Wherever you go there is always someone who is complaining about something and somebody sensible who is trying to calm them down. If at first you don’t succeed, still look for the positives. If you can find something positive to cling to, then other people cling to it too. Having a positive attitude and a positive outlook is attractive to people and that’s why it’s right to stay persistent and work towards a successful outcome and find your formula.

If At First You Don’t Succeed…

Then you need to reassess things and adjust things. Very often you will be so close to the promised land even though it will seem that it’s still miles away.

I can tell you a story about when I was in the band years ago – after a couple of years together, we were getting into playing venues in . This was where we were expected to go so that the recording companies could send people to see us. We had some good feedback as a band, with the only criticism being of the singer. This led to the singer leaving, not by our choice because we were prepared to work with him to improve things, but he was adamant. Then we found out he didn’t like the material we were doing, with the exception of my keyboard solo in the very first song! The drummer was good friends with him so the both of them left. Those of us who were left had the “if at first you don’t succeed” attitude so we got a new drummer and singer. They loved the material and we made a new demo. The feedback was wonderful and so we did a couple of gigs to warm up to go back to London again.

The week before we were due to go back, the new singer, who loved what we were doing unexpectedly left due to the fact that the guitarist annoyed him because he was “tight” and wouldn’t pay his way towards the transport to rehearsal etc. He was afraid that it would all collapse because of this selfish person’s attitude. I found out about the initial interest from the record companies and we were “on the brink”. Too late though, we (and I) had missed the boat!

Had the new guys had the same attitude of “if at first you don’t succeed” I believe we could have got what we wanted, changed our lives and then been able to ditch the troublesome guitarist who the rest of us “put up with” because he had talent. Still, not to be on that score, but I’m not going to quit until I have a successful business that will serve me and my family for a long time to come.

To the future

Barrie Evans