Why Your Life Journey Matters.

building your journey through life and following the pathEvery one of us has our own life journey. It’s a personal thing that often has too many people trying to influence. The outside influence is all around us. Why is it that all we hear about is bad news? Bad news accounts for a miniscule part of the news as a whole, but all we seem to hear about is murder, bombings, terrorism and the like. Why is that? I think it’s to drive fear into all of us so we comply with the control that is “invisible” all around us. We never really know the power of what we can achieve until we let go of this and set out our own life path.

The control can be as simple as people setting limits on us. Education systems in the past (and maybe even now in some circumstances) limited the expectations of certain pupils. What kind of message does that send out? It promotes “I can’t”. This is not because the person isn’t actually capable, but it’s because they are not being encouraged to forge their own path. Limitations don’t serve any of us, so don’t let anyone set limits on you or indeed set limitations on yourself. Be influenced by the opinion of others who limit you and you will never know what is possible.

It’s too easy to be influenced in this way if you actually let it happen! We all have our own inner genius that we were born with, but we have to follow the path to extract it.

Your Life Journey Is Unique To YOU

Knowing that you are unique is important. Everyone is unique in fact and if you live your life based on limitations set by either yourself or those around you, you will never know what your potential is and may never create a journey that is as fulfilling as you want it to be. Don’t let it create a list of “what if” in your head.

Creating your life journey is your own personal mission and it’s up to you to forge that path. Listen to constructive advice, but don’t let yourself be restricted because of someone else’s experiences. I have heard too many people say “that doesn’t work” when talking about the network marketing system. What they should say is that they are not comfortable with the method and need to find something that they can work with better. With the success achieved by some in network marketing, it’s clear that it DOES work, but it requires the same thing as any other business – WORK!

create your life journeyI had people who influenced me a lot when I was younger. I was told by a music teacher that I would never make it as a concert pianist. Talk about limitations! I know that those who make it in the music industry in that field have so much natural ability, but there are those who work hard and still make it. People can influence you in positive and negative ways.

I was taking lessons in playing classical organ at a local cathedral and my tutor was so impressed with what I was doing he suggested I take ARCO (Associate of the Royal College of Organists), which I did at 18. Unfortunately I failed by the smallest of margins in the practical and a little more in the theory and stupidly did not follow up. It was in my “A” level year, which may have had a bearing on it because I was so busy with other studies too, but I passed my music exam well.

I know now that the biggest and best influencer I should have followed was my organ tutor who believed in me. Instead I took more notice of the other teacher and didn’t forge my own path to do what I truly wanted to do. Other circumstances prevailed, but in hindsight (a wonderful thing now) I realize it was not just the limits set on me, it was my BELIEF in those limitations that stopped me from doing so much more.

I now know that the only person that truly influenced my life path was ME. I was a victim of circumstances, but mostly a victim of limits set on me by others and subsequently myself. I didn’t achieve the potential I had because I let other things get in the way.

Life Journey And Finding Your Direction

Finding your own direction and creating your life path is YOURS alone. Yes, you need a little guidance, but you need that goal to achieve everything you want in your life. Finding your direction is one way to find the road less travelled. “Beat around the bush” and let yourself be influenced by negative things and being a “victim” does not serve you in any way.

You have a dream or at least what is “considered” an achievable ambition, so focus on that NOW. Do what you need to do to reach your goal without becoming a victim of circumstances. You may, like me, experience some setbacks, but what burns inside you needs to be nurtured into a controlled and flourishing fire rather than a dying ember.

My mistake was to be the “victim”. It didn’t serve me in any way. The sad thing from my point of view was how easy it was to just leave those things I loved to do to make a living in a job I hated. Yes, it helped to provide for my family, but it didn’t provide for my own emotional well being. My advice to you is to re-evaluate your path if you feel you’re slightly off, but don’t give up on that dream.

My life journey hasn’t been a road less travelled by any means; it has been trodden down several times. This was because of uncertainty, limitations and influences that took me away from my true life path. I have at last found my path and am treading it with encouragement and real ambition. You can change at any time of life, but create as straight a path as possible, stay focused and practical in your ambition.

People around you want what’s best for you, but they may not understand your drive to do what they consider unachievable. It’s your life journey and you need to create it. There will almost certainly be some diversions, but keep at it because only YOU can realize what YOU want to do.


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29 Responses to Why Your Life Journey Matters.

  • Life journey is to unique and very difficult to achieve goal.

  • Hi Barrie,
    I loved your article about your life’s journey.
    Of course there have been some uncertainty, & limitations that took you away from your true life’s path.
    I think each of us must experience some of this. But It’s your own life journey that you need to create for yourself. only YOU can realize what it is and what YOU want to do with your life. Would love to see a video or a recording of you playing the organ my friend. Great article.

  • Hi Barrie,

    I liked your sharing your own journey – ups and downs in all. We all have that journey that may take us a while, but as long as we have the mindset that we want to continue, we are truely living!

    It is a wonderful thing to realize what we want to do in life and do it. What I love is doing something, achieving it, and moving on another pathway living that dream.

    I don’t think I’ll ever stop!


  • I was told during my A level year not to apply for university, basically because I wouldn’t fit in as I came from a working class background and probably wouldn’t get in anyway. (I was a scholarship girl at a snobby school in an affluent part of town). The only advise from the careers teacher was to become a librarian!

    I was determined to prove her wrong, although I didn’t apply for preferred course, geography, I got accepted into social sciences which in those days didn’t need such high scores, but one of the modules was social geography. I actually knew little about what I’d applied for and there were so many careers that I knew nothing of.

    Back then no-one I knew changed courses. Few who were turned down applied another year. Changing jobs and careers was frowned upon too. It was thought to show lack of direction and loyalty. Times have changed, thankfully. Kids are encouraged to stretch their boundaries and are more aware of the opportunities out there. Its acceptable to retrain for something completely different.

    I’m pleased you’ve found your way back to your music and work on something you enjoy. In hindsight I’m pleased I didn’t go for geography but it was luck, rather than judgment, that landed me in a course I enjoyed.

    • Yes Sue, I remember being encouraged to stay loyal and there was no talk of actually doing something you love and finding ways to do it. If you were not thought of as “good enough”, you were openly discouraged from doing it. There are many ways to move forward and work in a niche that enthuses you instead of “defusing” you. This needs to be taught and encouraged more in schools. They have improved, but there is a still a way to go.

  • Oh, Barrie! I couldn’t agree more!

    When you wrote this about the media only showing bad news: “I think it’s to drive fear into all of us so we comply with the control that is “invisible” all around us. We never really know the power of what we can achieve until we let go of this and set out our own life path.” I know exactly what you mean. I, too, feel that the media is controlled and they only report what they are allowed to report. It is about power and control. I don’t even watch the news intentionally. I watch for weather alerts as it is Monsoon season here (meaning thunderstorms and dust storms).

    I am truly hoping that in the near future, more people will wake up and know and understand that they create their own destiny. If they know and believe this, our world we change so much for the better!

    My best take-away was this: “what burns inside you needs to be nurtured into a controlled and flourishing fire rather than a dying ember.” What a picture you painted here, Barrie! This is exactly what I could no longer deny within myself. I was on fire! I need to control, guide and direct it. When you feel this way, you can’t just ignore it nor do I feel that you should. Find a way to keep the fire burning and never give up dreaming your dreams of freedom and success.


    • I try to avoid the news as much as I can too Deborah. Most of the time it only serves negativity and that needs to be avoided. Thank you for your own insight. I appreciate you. 😀

  • This post is very useful for everyone so plz keep it continue…..

  • Hi Barrie

    It doesn’t matter how you start or the mistakes that were made; the process, enlightment, awakening and end result is what matters in life.

    Despite your challenges, I am glad that you are on the road that will make a difference. We have all been in the uncertainty realm. Thank you for the wonderful post. Take Care

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  • Hi Barrie,
    On your blog after a long time but this post attracted me and I read this post about the journey of our life. Well, I have no words to say about. But will only say, thanks for sharing.

  • Hi Barrie,

    The journey doesn’t matter, what matters is the experiences you have gained, what you learnt, your attitude and the end goal.

    Thanks for the beautiful post 🙂

  • Hi Barrie,

    Yes, I agree with you that your journey does matter 🙂 It is so unique for each one of us. Comparing ourselves to other’s successes is not good because when we do not get that kind of success we see others having fast enough we tend to get discouraged and that is why so many quit 😉 I believe that as long as you are following your own path to success and learning along the way, you will have success too. THe most important thing is to never quit on yourself! Great post!

  • Hi Barrie,
    Very interesting article when i ever read. Very good tips for life ROUTINE. Thank you very much for sharing this amazing article to everyone.

  • Thank you Barrie. I needed this. The life journey. something most people struggle with. Who to be and who not to be. at the end of the day we are better off being ourselves and that is who we need to be. i agree there are so many distraction on the part. staying focus is the key “Finding your own direction and creating your life path is YOURS alone.”

  • Hi Barrie,

    Fantastic post, very encouraging! I often say, if I here a person often say “No, that is not possible” or “that is not doable”, it just means that they have not accomplished much in life. I just shrug it off and surround myself with people who have the “can DO” mindset.


  • I loved your article about your lifestyles’s experience. Usaand downs in all. We all have that trip that may take us a at the same time, but so long as we’ve got the mind-set that we wish to proceed, we’re truely residing! Thank you for the extraordinary publish. Take Care

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